Insecure is defined by Merriam-Webster as "not confident or sure." What makes us insecure of ourselves, therefore self-conscious of ourselves? Ah yes, the age-old question. We come up with every possible answer, but the basis of those answers stem from fear; fear of judgment, fear of non-acceptance -- "Oh My God, what are people going to say about me?! or I don't want to give them something to talk about." Well, would it be safe to say that we are individuals, so what does it really matter what others would think of us? We can't help that there are always going to be negative people in the world but it is a relief to know that we have the choice: to put up with that kind of attitude or stay away from it. Bottom line: No one deserves that negativity.
I've learned that others' comments, rather judgments, are a reflection of their own insecurities--so I shouldn't take it personal. But in order for me not to take it personal, I need to shut it down before it drags on. For example, if a loved one were to tell me something like "you're such a bitch." My response to that is "[please] take a look at yourself in the mirror" or I may even include what Mr. Chopra said, "I am because you are." Plain and simple. OR I can simply walk away from it because I know it isn't true. Basically, if you don't have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all. HOWEVER, don't get this twisted, I'm perfect in my imperfections--therefore I hope one doesn't catch me on a bad day >:o). Till next week, I bid you All love, light and compassion.